John Cooper – Social Heartistry Academy-Week 3

You ‘open‘ with “hello” and ‘transition‘ the strategy into asking her for a dance by touching her hand and she ‘rejects‘ you and gives you that look.

You feel ashamed, but at the same time a sense of relief, because you did your mission and it is now over. You go home thinking: Obviously, I need to practice my “game” more. Shit, my friends are going to ask me if I had success and results that night.

Sound painfully familiar?

“Pick Up” works like a drug. It is a quick fix for a problem deeply seated inside. You feel a sense of lack and pain, and you quickly go out and seek someone to get away from your pain.

You want someone to fill the hole within you, either consciously or subconsciously. The dating industry won’t tell you this, because the sugar rush of “getting laid” is more appealing and marketable than the hard reality of self-exploration and working through emotional pain.

Also most of these organisations and their coaches are so deep in pain themselves that they know no other way.

So what happens? You finally capture a women, feel good for a fleeting moment and you then quickly need your next hit.

This process has no end in the Pick Up paradigm.

We are starved of women, we need them, we need sex, we find a community promising us a sexual utopia – so long as we follow their how-to guide.

However, chasing girls with the acquisition mindset, will push you further and further down the rabbit hole of :