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You’ll even learn how to establish new brain pathways for truly loving yourself.
6 Steps to Inner Bonding
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Willingness to Feel Pain & Take Responsibility for Your Feelings
Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings — the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.
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Move Into the Intent to Learn
Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. When you’re in the intent to learn you are a loving adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.
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Dialogue With Your Wounded Self & Core Self
Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear, and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.
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Dialogue With Your Higher Guidance
Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What’s the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? What’s the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What’s in your highest good? What’s kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures, or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they’ll come.
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Take Loving Action
Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your guidance that is always here for you.
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Evaluate Your Action
Check in to see if your pain, anger, and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth. These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.
Here are just some of the benefits you’ll receive when you say “YES” to Finally, Truly Loving Yourself Through Advanced Inner Bonding:
Heal core shame and become authentically present Experience freedom from self-judgment, relationship conflicts, addictions, and attracting the wrong type of people Discover how willingness can catalyze your deeper transformation Uncover and work with the resistance you have to taking responsibility for your feelings Moving from trying to get love to experiencing and sharing love Get to the root of what’s causing depression and anxiety, and discover how to shift it Release and heal outdated beliefs about yourself Replace unhealthy, depleting strategies to get love with positive, revitalizing approaches Discover how to engage self-love — instead of addictions to food, sex or drugs — to fill your inner emptiness Move beyond feelings of victimhood, powerlessness and hopelessness Feel more intimate with — and sourced by — your connection to the Divine Deepen your spiritual practices so you can consistently operate at a higher consciousness
What You’ll Discover in These 14 Weeks
Course sessions are on Thursdays at 4:00pm Pacific.
In this 14-week transformational intensive, Margaret will guide you through the fundamental spiritual skills and competencies you’ll need to bond with the wounded parts of yourself and truly love yourself.
Each weekly contemplation and training session will build harmoniously upon the previous ones so you’ll develop a complete holistic understanding of the practices, tools, and principles you’ll need to practice Inner Bonding in your daily life.
Module 1: Overview of Inner Bonding (February 22)
In this first module, Dr. Margaret will provide a powerful overview of the terms used in Inner Bonding and the six steps of this healing process. Following the overview session, Dr. Margaret will work one-one-one with participants.
In this module, you’ll:
- Understand the earthly path of fear and the spiritual path of love and courage
- Begin to understand the differences between the wounded ego, the authentic soul self, the loving adult, and spiritual guidance
- Receive an overview of the ways we control and the consequences individually and in relationships
- Experience the 6 Steps of Inner Bonding
In this second week, you’ll discover the healing powers of willingness, what it means to be present with your feelings, take responsibility for feelings — and why you may resist doing so.
In this module, you’ll:
- Discover how willingness can catalyze your deeper transformation
- Explore how to become authentically present
- Discover how to stay present with your feelings in a way that’s deeply healing
- Uncover and work with the resistance you have to taking responsibility for your feelings
This week, we will delve deeply into the feelings caused by the self-rejection and self-abandonment of the wounded self and some of the information these feelings have for you.
In this module, you’ll:
- Explore the fear of feeling, and move beyond stuck places you may not even be aware of
- Illuminate the underlying reasons you may feel anxiety and depression
- Discover the roots of feelings of guilt, shame, and anger
- Explore emptiness and loneliness and their effects on your life
This week, you’ll explore the deeper feelings of life that you might have spent a lifetime avoiding with various addictions. You will discover the two intents you can choose from moment by moment, and how subtle this can often be.
In this module, you’ll discover:
- Existential painful feelings that we all learned to avoid
- The power of your intent — and what may be getting in the way of your intent to learn
- The nuances of the intent to control
- Safety and love are mutually exclusive — and explore this choice
This week you’ll receive help with connecting with your personal source of spiritual guidance, and what creates the loving adult self.
In this module, you’ll:
- Find out how to connect more deeply with your spiritual guidance
- Understand how to stay focused in your heart with love as your highest priority
- Experience the joy of living as a compassionate and curious loving adult
- Understand why being fierce and relentless about being loving is so vitally important
This week, you’ll receive in-depth support with the powerful Inner Bonding dialogue process, which enables you to discover what your feelings are telling you and identify the false beliefs that cause much of your pain. You’ll go deeper into the ways you reject and abandon yourself that cause so much pain, and how shame is tied up with the intent to control.
In this module, you’ll:
- Deepen your dialogue with your core painful and wounded feelings
- Discover the lies you may be telling yourself
- Uncover and begin to heal the ways you abandon and reject yourself
- Understand the purpose of shame and how to work with it
This week, we’ll dive deeper into dialoguing with wounded feelings and the painful existential feelings of life. You’ll learn how to lovingly manage the deeper core painful feelings life so that you no longer have to cover them over with various substance and process addictions.
In this module, you’ll:
- Learn to discern between healthy and unhealthy guilt
- Receive the information that your painful core feelings have for you
- Begin to become adept at lovingly managing your core existential pain of life
- Discover the difference between hurt feelings and a hurt heart and what each has to teach you
Your soul knows what brings you joy and you’ll learn how to discover this, and the choices you need to make to at-will connection with your spiritual guidance.
In this module, you’ll:
- Engage in illuminating dialogues with your inner child about what brings you joy
- Discover the two secrets to accessing your spiritual guidance more fully
- Explore how to raise your frequency and keep it high
- Know how your higher guidance communicates with you
There’s much to learn about how to communicate with your guidance — the kinds of questions to ask, learning to discern when it’s your guidance answering, and what needs to occur to trust your guidance. Remembering the times your guidance was there for you is part of learning to trust.
In this module, you’ll:
- Access your personal guidance more fully
- Understand the most powerful questions to ask your guidance
- Know how to tell if it is your guidance answering
- Experience how to learn to trust your guidance
This week, you’ll discover which actions are loving physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, organizationally, and relationally — and the false beliefs that stop loving action.
In this module, you’ll:
- Establish how to take loving action for your highest good
- Understand what stops your loving action
- Explore what’s in charge of the actions you take, and how to be more in charge as a loving adult
- Recognize what self-care really means for you — physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, organizationally, and relationally
One of the most important loving actions you can take is to define your intrinsic worth. You will start to learn to that this week, along with understanding procrastination. We will also begin to focus on loving actions in relationships.
In this module, you’ll:
- Discover and feel your intrinsic worth — is your doing a way to prove your self-worth or is it an expression of your self-worth?
- Get unstuck from procrastination if it’s present
- Begin to take loving action in your relationships
- Understand the intent to learn with another
Understand the powerful loving action in relationships of lovingly disengaging in conflict. Then we move into Step Six where you learn how to evaluate whether your action is loving to you and in your highest good, as well as deepening your understanding of Inner Bonding as a lifelong process.
In this module, you’ll:
- Master the art of lovingly disengaging
- Tuning back into your feelings to evaluate your loving action
- Understand the power of relaxing into process rather than fixating on a goal
- Discern the difference between doing Inner Bonding from your mind or from your body
Inner Bonding is an all-day form of meditation. What does it look like to practice Inner Bonding in daily life (and when you’re happy!)?
In this module, you’ll:
- Receive keys to staying present throughout the day
- Integrate Inner Bonding into your daily life
- Why to practice Inner Bonding when you are happy
- How you can practice Inner Bonding throughout the day even when you’re very busy
In this final module, Dr. Margaret will review of the entire method for truly loving yourself and illuminate the some of the beautiful possibilities, which are the result of an ongoing Inner Bonding practice.
In this module, you’ll review:
- The practice of Inner Bonding, which you can use in the moment you need it
- How to dialogue with your guidance until you receive the answers
- The changes you can expect within yourself with Inner Bonding
- The changes you can expect in your relationships as you learn to love yourself
Just as described | Finally, Truly Loving Yourself Advanced Program with Margaret Paul